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19 Signs Your Child Is Being Bullied and What to Do about It

  
  
  

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If your child is bullied it means that a peer or peers are intentionally causing her or him pain. Peer abuse! Just the thought can send shivers down our spines.

But the fact is 160,000 children skip school every day because they fear being attacked or intimidated by other students. Reports also confirm that bullying is starting at younger ages and is more frequent and aggressive than before. And the cruel behavior increases with age. Chances are your child may be bullied.

Also troubling is that our children don’t always tell us that they have been bullied. I’ve spent many a meeting with kids who were repeatedly victimized and in clear emotional pain.

“Why didn’t you go to a trusted adult for help?” I’d ask.

Their replies were concerning:

“I did tell my mom. She didn’t believe me.”

“I tried to tell, but I got too embarrassed.”

“If I told my dad he would have only made things worse by yelling at the bully.”

“Why bother? The stuff my mom told me to try wouldn’t work.”

Repeated bullying causes severe emotional harm and can erode a child’s self-esteem and mental health. Whether bullying is verbal, physical or relational, the long-term effects are equally harmful. Both boys and girls report high levels of emotional distress and loneliness as well as lower self-esteem, loneliness, anxiety and depression. Some situations the outcome is tragic: the child may take his or her own life.

So it’s time to get savvy and learn the warning signs of bullying. Bullying is always intentional, mean-spirited, rarely happens only once and there is always a power imbalance. The victim cannot hold his own and often will need adult help. Your child may not feel comfortable telling you about his pain, but if you know these signs your child is being bullied and tune in closer, you might be able to start bullying prevention in your home.

Signs Your Child Is Being Bullied

Here are possible warnings that a child may be bullied and needs your support. Of course, these signs could indicate other problems, but any of these warrant looking into further. See my blog, Signs of Cyber-bullying for signs of electronic bullying. Every child is different and any child can have an “off” day, so look instead of a pattern of behavior that is not typical for your child.
1. Unexplained physical marks, cuts, bruises and scrapes
2. Unexplained loss of toys, school supplies, clothing, lunches, or money
3. Clothes, toys, books, electronic items are damaged or missing or child reports mysteriously “losing” possessions
4. Doesn’t want to go to school or other activities with peers
5. Afraid of riding the school bus
6. Afraid to be left alone: wants you there at dismissal, suddenly clingy
7. Suddenly sullen, withdrawn, evasive; remarks about feeling lonely
8. Marked change in typical behavior or personality
9. Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed and that mood lasts with no known cause
10. Physical complaints; headaches, stomachaches, frequent visits the school nurse’s office
11. Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, cries self to sleep, bed wetting
12. Change in eating habits
13. Begins bullying siblings or younger kids. (Bullied children can sometimes flip their role and become the bully.)
14. Waits to get home to use the bathroom. (School and park bathrooms, because they are often not adult-supervised, can be hot spots for bullying).
15. Suddenly has fewer friends or doesn’t want to be with the “regular group”
16. Ravenous when he comes home. (Bullies can use extortion stealing a victim’s lunch money or lunch.)
17. Sudden and significant drop in grades. (Bullying can cause a child to have difficulty focusing and concentrating.)
18. Blames self for problems; feels “not good enough”
19. Talks about feeling helpless or about suicide; runs away.

What to Do if You Suspect Bullying but Aren’t Sure

Kids often don’t tell adults they’re bullied so you may have to voice your concerns. Review the signs of bullying and then ask direct questions.

“You’re always hungry: have you been eating your lunch?”
“Your CDs are missing? Did someone take them?”
“Your jacket is ripped. Did someone do that to you?”

Watch your child’s reactions. Often what a child doesn’t say may be more telling. Tune into your child’s body language. Silence is often powerful.

If you suspect bullying and your child won’t talk to you, then arrange a conference with a trusted adult who knows your child. If your child has more than one teacher you may need to meet with each educator or coach. Keep in mind that bullying usually does not happen in all school settings and in all classrooms. The trick is to figure out if your child is bullied and then where and when it is happening so you can get the right help for your child.

Hint: If your child has a classmate, you might be able to gain more information from the pal than your own child.

Meanwhile, keep an eye on your child. Children who are embarrassed or humiliated about being bullied are unlikely to discuss it with their parents or teachers and generally suffer in silence, withdraw and try to stay away from school.

Stress to your child you are always available, are concerned and recognize bullying may be a problem.

Emphasize that you believe your child and you are there to help.

Please seek the help of a trained mental health professional if the signs continue, intensify, or your gut instinct tells you “something is not right with my child!” Please!

Read more from Michele

Comments

Great post! Silence is deadly isn't it? I wonder if having an anonymous outlet within schools would help kids report. Not only the kids, but teachers too. We need to give kids an opportunity to fight the fear of speaking up by giving them a place to report since as you say, they feel like the person they confided in is not believing them. When a child is being bullied, all they want is for it to stop. And if no one is listening, we need to tell them to keep telling until someone is able to make it stop.
Posted @ Saturday, August 11, 2012 12:50 PM by Natalia McPhedran
This post confirms what I have suspected. I really wish I was closer to my son. I live across the country and his monther refuses to beleive anything is wrong. my son is exibiting 9 of these possible signs. I talked to him about this and we made a little progress but, he is telling his mom there is no problem but confids in me she just doesn't do anything so why tell her.. to everyone out there bullying is horible and really lowers self esteem. It should always be stopped before it gets worse. pushing shoving name calling should always be stopped as it just leads to worse acts.
Posted @ Tuesday, August 14, 2012 9:52 AM by justin
Justin, 
 
 
 
Thank you for sharing your story. It must be a very difficult situation to be in. I wish I could ease your mind, but I can at least offer a suggestion. Maybe if your son's mother won't listen, you could ask the school staff to be on the lookout for these behaviors. We at CEP (I am a CEP employee) believe that it takes a partnership to effectively develop a child's character, including parents, the schools, and the community at large. 
 
 
 
Again, thank you for reading, internalizing, and sharing your personal story.
Posted @ Tuesday, August 14, 2012 11:43 AM by Katie Hood
i get bullied myself i usually cry myself to sleep noone cares though i dont have any one to talk to besides my pearents and im scared to tell them i feel like theyll feel im lieing or something i dont know what to do i dont get hit kind of bullied but i get blamed on for everything and im always getting ripped on im never not getting ripped on im team bitch on my hockey team hockeys the one main thing i love in life but i get ripped on every day i play hockey now i just want to quit now i just dont know what to do anymore i sit in the libary all lunch and dont feel comfortable talking to people anymore i started getting bullied in grade 7 when i got nicknamed the rat because people think i look like a rat it went on to people breaking my stuff stealing my stuff chucking me into garbage cans etc its still going on now to this day please help and tell me what to do
Posted @ Monday, November 19, 2012 9:59 PM by joe
Nice!! Right now dealing with a safety patrol that is being rude and bossy to my kid!! Lets see if the teacher will do something about it.... Is crazy that the school give that kind of power to my kid peers!!
Posted @ Saturday, December 01, 2012 10:22 AM by Mary
@Mary - Gotta love when the school initiatives go sideways like that. My kids' school assigned one student per class to be the "go-to" person when bullying is spotted. The child they picked in her class had to "be fired" because he was behaving like a bully himself. lol
Posted @ Saturday, December 01, 2012 10:37 AM by Natalia McPhedran
MY SON IS BEING BULLIED AT A BOARDING SCHOOL - SUPPOSED TO BE A MILITARY ACADEMEY TRAINING YOUNG ADULTS TO BECOME LEADERS. MOST OF THE CADET OFFICERS ABUSE THEIR POWER AND YET THEY THINK MY SON NEEDS A CHANGE IN MEDS!
Posted @ Saturday, December 01, 2012 12:23 PM by TREE
Dear Joe, 
I'm so sorry that you are going through a tough time. Please go tell a guidance counselor at your school. They can help you deal with this and find a way to talk to your parents. 
Realize that you are not alone. I was bullied during a period of my youth too. It was very painful & I felt like the only person that was ever treated that way. As I got older, I realized that many people who I thought had it all together were bullied, too. 
It will get better. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents & the counselor. 
I'm praying for you!
Posted @ Tuesday, December 11, 2012 7:49 PM by Ron
i get bullied everyday!!! they make fun of my weight and call me a fat muffin,oompa loompa,hamburger,hungry hungry hippo,fat ***. i tell my parents but all they say is stop eating. it seems like they don't care. i think of suicide alc't of the time. my mom even calls me a fat***. it makes me feel like i don't deserve to live because im fat and im not worth it!!!! i really cant take this anymore!!!!! i dont know what do.
Posted @ Sunday, December 16, 2012 3:30 PM by allison mcnicholas
Hi Allison, 
 
My name is Katie Hood, and I work at the Character Education Partnership. I saw your comment this morning, and wanted to reach out to you since you are having a hard time with bullying. I’m sorry to hear that! I spoke with Michele Borba, the author of this blog, and she shared some ideas that might be able to help. But before we get into that, let me just say that the weight you are has no bearing on the PERSON you are. Everyone has something to offer the world, and the way you look has nothing to do with it. No one should ever make you feel like the way you look makes you a worse (or better) person. If you don't already know, Dove has a program to help girls like you struggling to accept their bodies and realize that their bodies don't define who they are. <a>http://www.dove.us/Social-Mission/campaign-for-real-beauty.aspx This is an article explaining what they're trying to do. You are not alone in how you feel, but you can try to find ways to make it better. Here's how: 
 
Michele suggests trying to find someone to reach out to. Since you don’t feel like you can reach out to your parents, maybe there’s someone at your school, like a teacher, a counselor, or a religious figure you respect. You need to find an adult and confide in them that these things are happening to you. These are people in authority that can help make a difference to stop bullies from messing with you. 
 
You might also want to talk to someone anonymously whose job is to help people going through hard situations, like bullying. Here is a website that might help. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/default.aspx?gclid=CL6es_i93rMCFYqZ4AodVnYARQ.  
 
You might also want to try finding a hobby outside of school that will allow you to make new friends and get away from the bullies you deal with in school. You could make some new friends that can help give you the support you’re looking for and help you find some solutions. 
 
I hope this message helps you, Allison. We care about you at Character Education Partnership and don’t want you to feel like you have to deal with being bullied. You don’t deserve that. 
 
Sincerely, 
 
Katie Hood
Posted @ Tuesday, December 18, 2012 3:05 PM by Katie Hood
hi im jessie i get bullid at my school thay call me fat and stuped and ugle and fake and more i tryed to ignor them but thay keep on going it hurts the most when know one can help me i sit in my room and cry becuz of iti try everyday to handle i dont even want to go to school anymore becuz of it even my mom is she is thinking about moveing me schools becuz of everything that has happend from september and on
Posted @ Tuesday, January 29, 2013 8:42 AM by jessie
Hi Jessie, 
 
I'm Sweta and I work here at the Character Education Partnership. I'm so sorry that people are so mean to you. I want you to know that none of this is your fault and that how you look and the size your body is has *nothing* to do with what kind of person you are and no one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. 
 
Here are some things that might help you: 
 
Is there any adult at school that you trust—a teacher, counselor, principal? If there is, tell them what is happening to you. You don’t have to keep this to yourself. 
 
If you have no one who you trust at school, call this number: 1-800-448-3000. You can talk to a counselor who can help you out.  
 
I hope that this message helps you. Remember that even if you feel alone, they are many people who care about you and are here to help you, including all of us here at the Character Education Partnership. Please e-mail me at shaldar@character.org or CEP at info@character.org if you have anything you want to talk about. Again, we care about you and you’re not alone. 
 
Sincerely, 
Sweta Haldar
Posted @ Wednesday, January 30, 2013 12:33 PM by Sweta Haldar
Hey I'm cody and I'm only eleven years 
old and I really need help. The bully says that I'm gay,says that I'm retarded and stupid but I'm smarter than him and I'm not gay what should I do?
Posted @ Sunday, February 03, 2013 1:35 AM by Cody
Hi Cody, 
 
I'm Sweta and I work here at the Character Education partnership. I want to say that I'm so sorry that people are so mean to you. No one has the right to treat you that way. None of this is your fault. 
 
Here's some advice: 
 
Do you have an adult that you trust in your life? A parent, friend, religious figure or especially, a teacher or counselor? If you do, tell them what's going on right now. You don't have to keep this to yourself. 
 
If there's no one you can think of that you can tell about this or if you just need to talk, you can call this number: 1-800-448-3000. You can talk to a counselor who can help you out. 
 
I hope that this message helps you. Remember that even if you feel alone, they are many people who care about you and are here to help you, including all of us here at the Character Education Partnership. Please e-mail me at shaldar@character.org or CEP at info@character.org if you have anything you want to talk about. Again, we care about you and you’re not alone.  
 
Sincerely,  
Sweta Haldar
Posted @ Friday, February 08, 2013 4:24 PM by Sweta Haldar
Hi..  
I'm writing because my son 9 has been being bullied since the beginning of this school year by a former best friend of 2 years that now shares the same classroom. When the incident was brought up with the child's mother she insisted on believing that her son did not do this because he cried when she confronted him.. The school has also been involved, having my son participate in a group for kids with social struggles (which I don't believe he needs), and it continues til this day. I'm afraid to bring it up with the school again because of the stance they have taken in the past, making us feel that my son is the one with the problem. I'm not sure what to do. His grades are horrendous, I have trouble getting him off to school... his self esteem is cowering. I need serious advice, this school system is supposed to be top notch...but I feel like the problem is just getting worse. What can I do to advocate for my sons well being without making the issue worse for him?  
 
Please help
Posted @ Tuesday, February 12, 2013 12:56 AM by Annie
My son is 9 years old. He telling me that he is being bullied . I have talk to the school. The boy and boys that he said are bulling him have been question but they always say they are not doing anything. Since the teacher do not see them they believe them instead of my son. When they question my son he gets so scared that his story changes. He has always been in honor roll now this grade are dropping fast. He is new to this school. They are telling us that my son is depress and I should have him seen like he is the one with the problem. I just don't know what to do.
Posted @ Monday, March 04, 2013 8:30 PM by sonia
Sonia, 
 
I'm so sorry to hear about what your son is going through and the problems you've faced in getting help. 
 
Though I'm not sure I can give you specific advice without knowing more about the situation, here are some general tips and resources: 
 
First, you should continue to work actively with school personnel. Make it clear that it's not acceptable that your child is experiencing negative effects. Speak with your child's teacher, counselor and school administrators. This is part of their job. Also see what resources the school has in place for children in a similar situation--perhaps a social struggles group. You might be afraid that intervening will make things "get worse" but these fears are probably unfounded and doing nothing will not make them get better. 
 
Here are some expert resources on dealing with this problem: 
 
http://www.empoweringparents.com/My-Child-is-Being-Bullied.php# 
 
http://parenting.kaboose.com/behavior/borba-bullying.html 
 
http://www.sheriff.org/safety/bullying.cfm 
 
http://www.stopbullying.gov/respond/index.html 
 
Talk to your child regularly about what he's experiencing and make sure he knows that he can come to you. Emergency resources also exist, if he needs to talk to someone. 
 
The Boys Town national hotline is helpful in crisis situations: 
 
http://www.boystown.org/national-hotline. 
 
I hope you found these resources helpful and that you are successful in seeking help for your son. 
 
Thanks, 
Sweta
Posted @ Thursday, March 07, 2013 10:22 AM by Sweta Haldar
Hi, 
My daughter has been complaining that there are a few girls who pinch and beat her in the school bus bcoz she asked them to let her also have a share of the open window and they wanted a major portion of the window to be open on their side. She did not beat back bcoz I have asked her never to . I even spoke to the bus attendent myself. He is not too co-operative as he thinks my daughter is responsible for the fight. This is bcoz my daughter is too talkative and sometimes gets into arguments .........but she has never been harmful. She just likes to have friends since she is lonely at home. But also she is the victim of peer jealousy bcoz she performs very well in school in studies and also extra curriculars. We are from India. What should I do? Do I need to talk to the parents of these bullies? All the children are 5-6 yrs old. I do not want my daughter's self confidence and performance to be affected in any way.
Posted @ Friday, March 22, 2013 10:58 PM by sudeepa deb
hi 
im in high school and i get bullied all the time and im tierd of it i want to take a stand so someone help me i want to me me not anyone else
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 11:07 AM by che collins
hi im nine i've bullied alot of times.one day as i was walking by the grass at my school they telling this boy he was a girl and they were calling him ollie and they were laughing at him and after he was calling some girls the f and b word then i went to the principals office to tell her that that was inapproiate and she saud she was going to talk with the parents of those 5kids and with the boy who was saying the f and b word
Posted @ Saturday, March 23, 2013 12:30 PM by fabiola
Dear Che and Fabiola, 
 
I'm going to answer both of your questions together because I feel like similar things could help you out. 
 
First, I'm so sorry to hear that the two of you are going through difficulties at school. 
 
Though I'm not sure I can give you specific advice without knowing more about the situation, here are some general tips and resources:  
 
Do you have an adult that you trust in your life? A parent, friend, religious figure or especially, a teacher or counselor? If you do, tell them what's going on right now. You don't have to keep this to yourself.  
 
If there's no one you can think of that you can tell about this or if you just need to talk, you can call this number: 1-800-448-3000. You can talk to a counselor who can help you out.  
 
I hope that this message helps you. Remember that even if you feel alone, they are many people who care about you and are here to help you, including all of us here at the Character Education Partnership. Please e-mail me at shaldar@character.org or CEP at info@character.org if you have anything you want to talk about. Again, we care about you and you’re not alone.  
 
Sincerely,  
Sweta Haldar
Posted @ Tuesday, March 26, 2013 3:21 PM by Sweta Haldar
I think bulling is fucked up!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted @ Tuesday, April 09, 2013 8:02 AM by Maya Harlan
what should i do im being bullied at school but mostly at home. my mom doesnt care and my dad is never around when i need him. at im 13 and scared of being hurt. does running away make it worst. can i have some advice.
Posted @ Sunday, April 14, 2013 11:35 PM by amber
Next week friday I'm going to the orthodontist for an assessment because 
> I need braces. I'm kinda nervous about going back to school with the braces 
> because I'm already made fun of enough without the braces. . . Like in 
> grade 7 at swimming class they would call me "Whale Tail" and "Fatty Fatty 
> 4x4" and once in the cafeteria this girl stuck a piece of paper on my back 
> that read "I am gay". Another time in grade 7 someone wrote on a piece of 
> paper "Gay ******", stuck it on my bag and threw all of my books out of the 
> bag(I had a meeting after school and left my bag outside the class.) It's 
> been a lot worse in gr. 8, on Facebook there was this picture with me in the 
> background and someone tagged me as "the gay ugly dog" and people would stay 
> stuff like "Did the pretty gene only take place in one egg?" and "Did your 
> mom throw you against a wall until all the pretty fell off?". My head is 
> kinda big and there's this boy who says things like "When Alaina runs in 
> P.E. she's always a head" and "Alaina's head isn't big, she's just wide 
> between the ears". He calls me Mega Skull sometimes and then the whole class 
> starts to laugh. There are these girls that sit in Blue Square and when I 
> walk pass them they call me stuff like Ugly Duckling and Lobso(apparently my 
> head is lobsided.) And I hear it so often I start to believe that I'm ugly 
> or fat sometimes. What do you think I should do?
Posted @ Sunday, April 14, 2013 11:39 PM by amber matejowsky
Hi, 
My girl is 14yrs old now, she is always a bullied target since she was 12yrs old. 2 yrs ago,all her peers ignored her because 2 girls in the class had started to talk bad about her.She was all alone in the school and eventually got depression. Counselors were approached. I thought it will end soon as she was being promoted to other school that year!Unfortunately, she was being classed with that girl again! Now in this school, same things happen again like she is always being left out. Whenever she was with any other classmates, that girl will try to join in then take away her friends.My daughter is being called as their maid too! Recently, there is an overseas trip and because of this girl's evil doings, my daughter is unable to go as no one is willing to share a room. She is very upset.I'm so heart pain to see her in agony. Already told the teachers n school but none can help. My girl has another 2 more years in this school, I'm so worried that this bullying will continue! Shall I change school for my daughter? I'm quite reluctant as this school is so near my house! Please advise. Or is there any way that my daughter can help herself to overcome all these nonsense?  
 
Posted @ Tuesday, April 23, 2013 10:55 AM by Lily Lim
I hate bullying I am bullied now and now the bully is also picking on 1 of my best friends and it makes it very hard to keep calm about this. Can someone please give me some advice?
Posted @ Wednesday, May 01, 2013 4:30 PM by
As somebody who has consistently been victimised at high school over a period of 5 years by various other pupils, I just feel the need to tell my story here. Having Aspergers Syndrome and being a non-confrontational, redhaired girl who struggled to stand up for herself and was often alone, I suppose I made the perfect victim. I was consistently victimised by a group of boys in my year who tripped me up in corridors, stole my items (less common), kicked footballs at me in P.E. and when I was walking past them on the school yard and made lots of noise in general. I was scared most of the time when they were around me as I was scared that they would bully me in class, where I was trying to get on with school work quietly. I had other, one-off instances of bullying throughout high school, most of which I stood up to and dealt with and it stopped, but the group of boys which bullied me for five years never stopped. It was in year ten I started to have suicidal thoughts and feelings, I physically assaulted people who wound me up, I pushed away good friends, in my frustration and anger I didn't realise what I had. By some miracle of God and some graft on my part, I managed to come out with the third highest GCSE results in the year, along with getting my name on the high school shield and winning two awards whilst I was at it. I refused to let them win over me but sometimes I still see some of the boys around and I dislike seeing them because it brings back bad memories. I have forgiven them, I pray for them on a regular basis and I want them to find love because I know they have probably had a worse upbringing than me but I'm not sure how to go about helping them?
Posted @ Thursday, May 02, 2013 3:52 AM by Jennifer Smith
I was bullied when I was younger and now I'm really concerned about it. All these kids getting bullied and their parents don't care or sometimes even they bully their kids too. I want to help stop this but I don't know how.  
-Anonymous
Posted @ Tuesday, May 14, 2013 4:47 PM by Anonymous
My son is showing everyone of the 19 signs of being bullied but I cannot get him to talk to me. He is 7 years old and a nervous wreck. We moved to Jhb 5 months ago until then he was a happy go lucky child, now he won't leave my side and is miserable. When I speak to the school they say they need him to talk or they can't do anything.In the beginning of the year he came home with his buttons off and clothes ripped, only after 8 weeks of me begging did he admit he was being bullied and tell who it was. Now this term he is in melt down and says he isn't being bullied. He is very shy and introverted and is now blaming the work at school for being the reason he doesn't want to go. I don't know how to help him.
Posted @ Tuesday, May 28, 2013 2:38 AM by Janet
Dear Janet, 
 
I'm so sorry that your son is going through such a difficult time. Though I'm not sure I can give you specific advice without knowing more about the situation, here are some general tips and resources:  
 
First, make an active effort to engage school personnel and do not accept any excuses. Continue to speak to your son's teachers, counselors and any other adults who may have contact with him. Let them know your concerns and suspicions and that you do not believe it is acceptable that your child is experiencing negative effects, even if he has not yet spoken out. Do not be afraid to be persistent, as this is part of their job. Also see what resources the school has in place for children in a similar situation--perhaps a social struggles group. You might be afraid that intervening will make things "get worse" but these fears are probably unfounded and doing nothing will not make them get better.  
 
Here are some expert resources on dealing with this problem:  
 
http://www.empoweringparents.com/My-Child-is-Being-Bullied.php#  
 
http://parenting.kaboose.com/behavior/borba-bullying.html  
 
http://www.sheriff.org/safety/bullying.cfm  
 
http://www.stopbullying.gov/respond/index.html  
 
Talk to your child regularly about what he's experiencing and make sure he knows that he can come to you. Emergency resources also exist, if he needs to talk to someone.  
 
The Boys Town national hotline is helpful in crisis situations:  
 
http://www.boystown.org/national-hotline.  
 
I hope you found these resources helpful and that you are successful in seeking help for your son.  
 
Thanks,  
Sweta
Posted @ Tuesday, May 28, 2013 8:57 AM by Sweta Haldar
my 9yr old lil boy is being bullied cause he is overweight didnt knw till today.i knw something was wrong 2wks ago and ive always told him he cn come 2 me if he was getting bullied it upsets me that he didnt come out and tell anybody guess he thnks its his fault that the kids call him fat dnt knw what 2 do ive bn crying allday since i left him at school after maken him tell hes just a lil boy that dnt do any thing 2 any body i wish i cld take his pain away what can i do 2 help him threw this
Posted @ Wednesday, May 29, 2013 11:20 AM by tanya fourez
yall are wrong yall will nvr kno how it feel to be in a bully position as a victim I would know and ive been in a crazy house and been to counseling and this is nothing 
Posted @ Thursday, May 30, 2013 6:34 PM by isabella
 
This is just my life story.It may seem selfish of me but those who are in the same situation as i will understand me.My name is Alex George and i live in Germany.I fell in love with the love of my life since my high school her name is Nicky Young, no matter how i tried to make her see reasons that i was in love with her, it was all a waste of time.She was in love with a guy who does not deserve her love for any reason i mean he was a cheat and he never made her happy.All the time she was married to the guy she always seem so unhappy cause he was never at home always hang out with his scum friends and even get wasted and lead to drunk sex.She was so aware of the fact that he cheats on her with cheap girls.Watching her like that was so hard.I tried all i could to make her understand that there was some one who actually care for her but it never happened.The worst happened she found out that the man she call her husband was married to another woman living in New York.This was the saddest moment of her life he wasn't ready to end things up with the other woman because he claimed that she is the mother of his children he don't want to miss out from the life of his children.Nicky was not lucky enough to be carrying his offspring and that was something i loved so much cause Nicky is too special to carry the child of a monster.Off course he ask for a divorce but she was not going to give it to help i talked to her, her parent did the same but she claimed to be in love and i said when you are in love you fight for those you love.This words made me took the action i took to get her to myself with the help of a spell caster from Dr sunshine his email doctorsunshinehope@yahoo.com.I mean she was in pain and was depressed she started taking pain drugs, even made everything more complicated but i was able to make her quit.Even after all this problem she had because of that guy she still wanted him back but he didn't want anything to do with her.I decided that she was too good to suffer for that guy.When i first contacted Dr sunshine i told him how Nicky married her husband and how unhappy she has been and how she doesn't want me even when she knows i love her so much.Dr sunshine told me that i was going to get some material to push through with the spell he was going to help me with.I asked him to get the material for me so that i will pay for them.All he kept telling me was that all my heart desires will come to me.I wish i knew what he did but it made Nicky love me more than her last husband i was so in love as much as she was to me it was so obvious that Dr sunshine killed the pain She was having and made the love between us so strong that no one can put asunder.Thanks to Dr sunshine we are getting married soon.I just want to say thank you for the spell.contact him now (doctorsunshinehope@yahoo.com). 
Posted @ Sunday, June 02, 2013 4:11 PM by Alex George
hi im shannon. ive been bullied and im doing an art project in school. id like to do it on victimisation and i would like to get as many stories from people who have been bullied and there experiences.This is my way of fighting back and standing up for myself because the people who bully me are some of my teachers. if you will share your story with me i would appreciate it.
Posted @ Sunday, June 09, 2013 5:14 AM by shannon
The only thing I have seen that works for schools with a bullying problem is Bully Neutralizer, an online course the school makes bullies take. It is great because bulling behaviors are reduced, school attendance increases, and schools are protected from lawsuits. Everybody wins! I don't know the website, but you can Google Bully Neutralizer and you will find the YouTube video that explains the program. It's great!
Posted @ Wednesday, June 12, 2013 11:04 AM by Tex
I've being bullied by several people through the out the past when I was in the 7th grade / year 7, I was bullied buy managed to get over it, now I'm I'm soon starting the 9th grade / year 9 and the bully has told me to carry his books and blazer around in my bag and give them him back at the end of the day if I refused he would get a group against me and outnumber me, he constantly threatens my friends and me now its like the same thing as before the bully told the class that he will be buying a butterfly knife and bringing it to school and that he won't be afraid to use it, I don't know if he is bullying me or 
not, thanks.
Posted @ Thursday, June 20, 2013 4:47 PM by Daniel
Daniel, in response to your question, it does indeed appear that you are being bullied, and you shouldn’t put up with this kind of behavior. There are no doubt rules, policies, and consequences in your school for harassing and threatening behavior, and adults in your school should be made aware of this immediately. We recommend you describe details of this situation to an adult family member and a teacher, counselor, and/or administrator (Dean, Assistant Principal, Principal, etc.) as soon as possible. Don’t let this person get away with the threats and demands, and trust that your school leaders will take care of you and your friends by appropriately dealing with this situation.
Posted @ Friday, June 21, 2013 10:28 AM by Russ Sojourner
Hi i just wanted to say that in school me and my friends didnt like this one girl and didnt want her hanging out with us anymore so we told her that we cant be friends with her anymore and now she has gotten angry oh so angry and started to bully us yelling at us and talking behind our backs about us calling us names and only me, i got thretened by her she said on instagram that she told her step brother and her cousins and they were going to beat me up and called me a bitch but she dosent know where i live so im scared a little i dont like to be alone anymore and i like staying in my house we didnt mean to hurt her we just didnt want her to be around us and at that time we didnt know any other way to do it and she said that i called her a bitch and thats y she called me one back but hers the twist my fricking instagram got hacked so i didnt say any of that.
Posted @ Monday, July 08, 2013 1:59 PM by ?
Not sure if anyone has ever had this problem! I have a 9½ yr. old stepson and a 9 yr. old son, they're ½ brothers, in the same grade, custody of both all their lives. Stepson has limited visitation with his mother, who is troubled. My stepson is bullying my son at school and on the bus, so muchso that my son's friends have become my stepsons friends and are bullying my son as well! My son gets off the bus crying, been in trouble at school for the things my stepson has done! My son has told teachers numerous times and I have contacted the school, bus driver and school counselor with no relief. My stepson and his friends deny they have done things, even though other children have witnessed and are always being bullied by this group. Since the teacher doesn't see it, it's not happening. My son has begged me to home school him, which I have seriously thought about doing, however this behavior happens at home as well, with punishments though! Nothing seems to be working! I have exhausted all searches and have tried sooo many things. The only feasible thing I can think to do different is to not allow the visitations with my stepson's mother, however that can be very difficult and lots of court dates! The boys being almost the same age and being in the same grade, it's like the teachers & principle don't have time to differentiate the two boys! So when I call about one, they question the wrong child!! My stepson has Hadar lot of anger & problems all his life & have seen counselors, but he's very sneaky and manipulative. I love both of my boys more than anything and try to give them the best, but how can I approach this without everyone thinking I'm the evil stepmother?! I'm the only mother my stepson actually has ever had and has always called me mommy & his mother by her name. I don't want to throw one child under the bus but I also don't want his behavior to continue and get worse! What can I do? Any information would be helpful! Thanks!
Posted @ Monday, August 12, 2013 12:11 PM by Shanna
well we need education system that may eradicate illiteracy and may provide the common man an access not only to basic education but also to higher and technical education...
Posted @ Tuesday, August 13, 2013 2:56 AM by pmp exam
Bullying is greatly affect the concentration of one student, the government should do something about it.
Posted @ Wednesday, August 14, 2013 10:17 PM by pmp practice test
I have a 16 yrs old son and i think he is been bullied by the Dean or assistant principal in his school. i have witness this person my self doing this to a student and when student got angry the dean got in his face and scream a the poor teenager making treads of calling parent to get him in trouble. when student left he laughed and said i love my job cause i can do what i want. told the principal and nothing is been done. my son won't talk to me i don't know what to do. It is obvious this is going on cause he suspends him for lots of stupid stuff. Also when is time for school my son gets sick, or have to use bathroom and say he is constipated. then he uses the excuse he can be late for school and won't go. when i ask him he refuses to talk to me and start yelling to me and lock himself in his room. Did i mention my son is also ADHD.
Posted @ Thursday, August 29, 2013 8:23 AM by vilmarie
May I suggest that if you believe your son is being bullied by the Dean or Assistant Principal, that you first work to bring your concerns directly to those administrators. Perhaps hearing their side of the story will bring more clarity to you, and in doing so perhaps they'll also gain a different perspective that might help them deal with the situation more appropriately. If you don't then find resolution, suggest you once again bring the issue to the Principal, and let him/her know that you've tried to work with the Dean/Assistant Principal directly. It sounds like you've already brought this issue to the Principal once, and if this second attempt doesn't bring satisfactory resolution, you should then work to discuss with the principal's supervisor - likely an administrator at the District Central Office. Our bottom line as educators and administrators... no one would wish that your son feel uncomfortable at school, and we would all want to help resolve his concerns. Sometimes administrators don't have a complete picture of a particular situation, and they may not understand that they could be contributing to the concerns. Please consider continued open dialogue with those individuals, allowing them the opportunity to help you and your son feel better about the situation.
Posted @ Thursday, August 29, 2013 11:18 AM by Russ
My son went thro this everyday in middle school.middle school is the worst.i went to school numerest times and called police to the school it was so bad school and police did nothing.finally my solution was simple i had to get a bigger kid who grabbed the smart punk kid up while his bully friends were with him and scared the crap out of him.my friend grabbed the bully by the shirt and shoved him against the wall.gave him a taste of his own medicine.the punk and his friends never bothered my son again for 2 years.then the bully did it again and my son snaped the bully tryed to hide under a desk.the out come?my son was suspened for a week along with the bully because of the o tolerance.but I took my son out everyday for lunch.was I mad at my son?no way and the bully never touched my son again after my son went beserk on his butt.my point is school never does anything about it so we did.if you think my son and I were wrong at any point just remember children commite sucide everyday because of a bully.iam glad I have my son.id do it again if I had to.just remember to have a bigger kid grab the bully up off of school grounds if possible if not do it in the parking lot were not many people are looking and you watch from afar! Better yet beat the punks a"".
Posted @ Thursday, August 29, 2013 6:57 PM by mrs. wolfe
I have a bully named Habiba. I cannot talk to her parents, they dont speak english. My school hasn't gotten her to stop, and my mom doesn't know what to do. I am scared that if I try and stand up to her, I will get pummeled into a pool of blood. Please help me. I don't want to kill myself or anything, I just want her to stop but how?
Posted @ Thursday, August 29, 2013 10:48 PM by Anonymous 5th grader
You need to tell your mom or a grownup to meet with the teacher or teacher'. Have her talk to the principal. Basically, raise hell and tell everybody!... bring nothing but negative attention to the bully. If the bully lays a finger on you, get angry and fight back with relentless vengeance! and guess what?... if the bully hits you, that's assault. Low lives and criminals get arrested when they assault others. Assault is a crime that you can report to the police. Eventually have your mom find a hungry and crafty attorney, who could potentially start helping you raise hell. I can guarantee that once the bully's parents catch wind of what's happening, they will learn how to speak English or find someone who will help them understand. Remember, school is for learning. It's not a place to feel scared or uncomfortable. Despite what many say about it being part of growing up, guess what?... no it does not have to be. Fight back in every way imaginable. With your mom and dad's help, become a dreaded thorn on that bully. Make him/her wish they had never picked on you.
Posted @ Monday, September 09, 2013 9:04 AM by Orlando Paz
Help! My five year old son has just started in P1. There has a been a change. In nursery, he was smiley, friendly whose friends were very important to him but now in school, there have been angry outburst. For example, he has been accused of touching other children, started to show signs of aggressions by hitting, kicking, punching, being defiant and not doing what he is told. He has started playing with boys in P4 who are three years older than him. I think he is being bullied, am I right? I'm worried about the impact upon his confidence and self-esteem.
Posted @ Sunday, September 29, 2013 7:55 AM by Annie Dray
No child should be unhappy at school, and as you suspect, bullying may certainly be an issue. However, some of the "warning signs" you're witnessing may simply be a reaction to the new start in P1 - these kinds of behaviors are not that uncommon, even when there are no bullying/harassment concerns. As a former school principal, I'd suggest you continue to seek resolution and support from your child's teacher (and administration if necessary). Consider making classroom visits to observe directly what may be going on, talk extensively to your child's teacher about your concerns and what he/she may be observing, and know that you may have to discuss your concerns with the assistant principal or principal if satisfactory resolution is not obtained. You are certainly your child's most important advocate, so continue to work to satisfactory resolution. You may find that the negative behaviors go away on their own after your son better assimilates himself into the school environment, or you may find that bullying is in fact an issue, which may require more intensive intervention by the school professionals. You may also want to seek advice from experts like Marguerite Kelly (see margueritekelly.com) who offers great and practical parenting advice that you may find useful.
Posted @ Monday, September 30, 2013 9:25 AM by Russ Sojourner
my name is lanai 
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Posted @ Saturday, October 05, 2013 8:42 AM by lanai
I know my daughter is being bullied. I don't know why. And I don't know how to help. She is only 7 and in second grade. The problems started last year in first grade. She has come home saying things like she wishes she was never born and she hates herself and wishes she were dead, As a mother it breaks my heart to hear her talk like that. She is already in counseling, but I don't know what else I can do. Her teachers swear she gets a long great with her classmates and they have never seen anything happening to be able to intervene. My daughter closes me out and won't talk to me about whats going on or who is saying what, and denies being bullied, but some of her few real friend classmates have told me about the horrible things these other little girls at the school are saying about her and how they pick on her, and a few times she has told me herself specific things that certain kids have said to taunt her. She passed out invites to her bday party for the whole class a couple weeks ago and before even bringing them home to her parents many of the kids told her they'd be "busy" on that day and wouldn't come (before any parents even had a chance to see the invites)A friend of hers told me a lot of the kids were going to boycott her party because they were afraid to be associated with her because she is picked on for being "weird". The fact that she won't talk to me makes it hard for me to be able to advise her how to handle this situation.... But even if she did I really don't know what to tell her. What can I do???????? Please help!
Posted @ Tuesday, October 15, 2013 12:47 AM by Shaina
Shaina, 
 
If you're sure your daughter is being bullied at school, you should continue to seek resolution at school. Teachers often don't witness harassing actions, so even if they have the best intentions, they may not have the information necessary to get the behaviors to stop. It sounds like you have sufficient information from your daughter's friends about what may be happening, and that you also have some specifics from you daughter. As a former school principal, I'd recommend you take this specific information to your daughter's teachers (the more specific the better - with names, comments, times and locations, etc.) and continue to press for resolution. Ultimately you can't accept indifference or ignorance from the teachers as an excuse - you may have to seek resolution from the assistant principal or principal. As you know, these issues are too serious to allow them to continue. You should also discuss your daughter's comments and feelings with her counselor - continued professional help may be necessary as well.
Posted @ Tuesday, October 15, 2013 8:42 PM by Russ
stick up for yar self 
Posted @ Saturday, October 19, 2013 10:40 AM by Brianna Guerrero
My 9yr old daughter is being picked on and I call it bullied. I have been to the school on more then one occasion and my mother even emailed the teacher because she was so upset by the thing my daughter was telling her. They call her fat; she is a little chubby but not overly so; they tell her her clothes are ugly, they wont let her play any games with the rest of the girl and make faces at her. The principle has talked to the girls the say she is not telling the truth. When they got called to the office they said to her [what have you been telling your mom]. When the principle talked to my daughter[who has told both my mom and myself the same things at different times] she said well maybe she didn't say exactly that. Now the principle is acting like my daughter is part of the problem. The girls are just getting sneaky and saying things when nobody can hear them. The girls as a group are going to the social worker at school but as soon as they leave her room to head back to class they give her a hard time in the hall on the way back to their room. She tells me she can;t stand up for herself I just don't get it. She is the first one to stand up for someone else tho. She cries and doesn't want to go to school. She is a lot crabbier at home and now doesn't want to tell what is happening because if I call the school she says it will be worse. When I went to the school I talked to the teacher, principle and social worker all together. I told them who was saying it and what they were saying. Because she sits at the same lunch table and they don't hear they don't really think anything is happening. Now because she told another girl, she wasn't going to talk to those 2 girls anymore and she didn't think she should either, she got called to the principles office. They parents were called but their comment was I have a hard time believing my daughter would do that. So nothing is being done really. The girls just now know how to do it so nobody hears them. She wants to be excepted so bad on the few days they are nice to her she plays with them and tries to be their friend. Now the one friend she did have they are trying to pull into their group to really leave her all alone. What am I suppose to do when they don't believe me? My daughter is sad and I cry myself to sleep when I do sleep! Can you give me any advice?
Posted @ Saturday, October 19, 2013 11:59 PM by lisa
Hi Lisa, 
 
I'm very sorry for your daughter and for you. These kinds of stories are all too common, and all too heartbreaking. As a former school principal, my advice is that you can't give up. You really need to continue to work with school officials to get these behaviors to stop. Continued meetings, continued persistence, continued documentation and specifics. And when your daughter asks you not to bring the issues to school for fear that they'll get worse, you need to let her know that this is the best way to work toward resolution. Bottom line... don't accept a school "no" for an answer. They know that mean girl bullying issues are common and insidious, and they must work with all parties to continue to chip away at the behaviors. As for your daughter, please continue to work with her - these girls will likely never be good friends, and your daughter may just need to recognize that other girls will love her and respect her for who she is. Easier said than done, but your daughter needs to stop giving these girls power over her.
Posted @ Sunday, October 20, 2013 8:23 AM by Russ
My 11 year old son is being bullied by another student in middle school. This has been going on for over 2 years now. The bullying ranges from name calling like calling my son gay rod, faggot, whore, tiny penis, douse bag, f@%$#@, and other names. This boy has humped my child and other children. He has stolen my sons things from off of his desk and in his desk. He has also hit my child. Not to mention he has also threatened to beat him up after school. I talked to the school principle last year and the year before. I always got the same answers from him. "The boy has a lot of problems, the parents are trying, they have a large family, he says he won't do it again. He has to spend lunch in the my office tomorrow, he will not have recess." That was just the last two years. Now these kids are in middle school. I have already been there once to talk about an incident that happened. Last week my son came home and told me that the kid stole his marker off his desk. My son told the teacher and I have on idea what has become of it. Did I mention his school ID is missing also. Now yesterday he came home from school and told me this kid was hitting him in the morning before school and calling him a bunch of names. I drop them off at school and there are teachers out side with these kids, they are directing traffic before the doors are unlocked. This is happening right under their noses and do not see a thing. My other son told me about this (they are twins) but doesn't want me to tell the school he heard it and seen it too. Then at lunch he told my son that he was going to have him arrested so he can go to jail, and while he's in jail he hopes my son gets raped and killed. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help me help my child.
Posted @ Tuesday, October 22, 2013 10:46 AM by Rita
Rita, as you know, these are serious and troubling allegations. Regardless of the work you've done in the past to rectify the situation, I recommend you once again go directly to the school principal to discuss the current situation. Physical contact, theft, threats of violence... these are situations that must be dealt with swiftly and strongly. There are also possible legal ramifications, so you also have the option of either calling the police and reporting to them what is happening at school, or you could let the principal know that if these things continue, you'll have no other recourse but to report to the police. Please also remember, since you've tried to resolve at the school level with apparently no resolution, you also have the option of reporting your concerns to the school district Superintendent or his/her representative. Again, when physical harm, theft, and other violent acts or threats of violence are involved, school authorities have a heightened obligation to take appropriate action.
Posted @ Tuesday, October 22, 2013 12:16 PM by Russ
Hi, My name is alexis i been getting bulllied for two years and im a cutter and i don't eat. i been in the hospital and im been on pills its been two months and i have not cut or ... well i still not eat that much, i been looking at all these comments and i feel bad for all this child that are getting bullied i started getting bullied in 5th grade im in 8th grade and its been better after i moved for two schools.  
my med's help somethimes but im still depressed and that will never charge, people ask me all the time who im feeling but i always lie to them i was wonder if someone can help me with i keep lying to people about my feelings and i dont know how to change that.
Posted @ Thursday, October 24, 2013 9:54 AM by alexis
My girls r being bullied and I have called the police the school, my apt complex cause the girl lives in the same complex she already beat up my daughter has been waiting for her after school cops say its girl drama it will pass stupid its not stoping the girl mom has pass and said nasty things to them don't know what more can I do
Posted @ Friday, October 25, 2013 3:59 PM by celina
My daughter got beat up by a group of girls which right now it in the courts since one of the girls is being charge as a adult.These group of girls have friends and now yell very harsh words at her evertime she goes out and even in front of our house.Im not sure what I can do this is hurting her so bad.Im just getting so angry I just want to scream at these girls but I have to saw a good example for my daughter, I can't talk to their parents since most of them dont care.What can I do.
Posted @ Thursday, October 31, 2013 8:18 PM by Tiffany Morgan
Hello, 
I'm the parent of an eleven year old boy that has been being harassed for months by a thirteen year old, female neighbor. Initially it was only verbal. She called him degrading names on the bus, yelled at him in the halls and had her friends pick on him. In the beginning, I told him to ignore her because she has an alcoholic parent and recently lost her father to a violent crime. I tried to let him know that occasionally people can be cruel for a period of time when they were going through difficulties. 
 
Well, two days ago while on the school bus, she got a large, older, male friend to verbally harass my son. They told him to leave "their" area of the bus and called him terribly degrading names. My son had enough and gave it back to them verbally. When they left the bus, this near fourteen year old boy proceeded to viciously attack my son. While he attacked my son, the female neighbor recorded it on her phone. She had planned it in advance with the boy and achieved their goal. Later that evening, she posted the video on Facebook. It wasn't enough to physically hurt my son, they had to publicly humiliate him. An eleven year old that looked up to them and at one point considered them friends. 
I called the police, they took the video as evidence and the boy went to juvenile detention. The girl got a two day in school suspension. That's all. She told the officer she helped plan it and only got a suspension. 
My child held his head high and returned to school today and made it through a day of questions, ridicule and awkwardness. He was so hurt when the officer and I explained how she had set him up. He's putting on a brave front but I worry. I'm proud of his courage but am truly concerned for him. 
I will have him call. Boys Town so he can express himself and have an outlet for his feelings. He won't say much to me and I don't want to push him too hard. As a parent, it is heart breaking to watch this play out and I feel so much guilt in trying to get him to sympathize with this wolf. The betrayal is indescribable and unbelievable. 
I have cried for the past two nights when I know he's asleep and wonder what I could have done to help him avoid this and what I can do to help him get through this. I feel so much disdain for this girl and her treachery. The cold look in her eyes when she told the officer she did it because he talked shit to her. She didn't care. She titled the video talk shit get hit. Clever, no? I find these young sociopaths intolerable and am debating moving. I'm not mulling it over for shame or fear of retaliation by the perpetrators but for what I may do. Those that believe, pray for us. Those in the know, advise me on how to cope. 
Thanks for reading.
Posted @ Saturday, November 02, 2013 2:19 AM by Gail B
To Gail and others who have posted recently about the many bullying situations... I'm not a mental health professional, so I'm not qualified to give advice about counseling or other medical services, but I am a former school principal and currently work with schools regarding culture issues, including bullying and other peer to peer conduct. As such, I have several observations that you may find useful. First of all, bullying is a terrible problem among youth in our society. It's an epidemic, and large numbers of school children are bullied every day. Your children are not alone, and it's no doubt heartbreaking for parents and children, and frustrating for school officials. But children should not have to live with this kind of behavior, so continue to bring issues to your children's teachers and administrators. Demand resolution. And in cases where physical harm or threats are made, consider reporting to the police. In addition, encourage your children to stand up for themselves, and encourage other children to stand up for the bullied. Do not confront the bully children - schools, police and courts do not look favorably on adults confronting children - for any reason. Also, remind your children that they are special and that they are loved, and that bullies have been and will be among us - our children need to be reminded that everyone will not like them, and that some children simply aren't nice, and will be hateful and hurtful. Encourage your children not to give the bullies this power. As for moving to another school, some of you don't have that option, but I've known several families that got frustrated enough that they took the option of transferring, and in some cases (but not all), the move was a good one - a fresh start, new friends, no discouraging history. Finally, find some encouragement in the fact that bullying tends to be the biggest problem in the middle grades/years - as children get older these kinds of issues often start to decrease as youth become comfortable with who they are and feel less of a need to harass or put down others. So, stay strong, know you're not alone, and never just accept these situations - continue to demand resolution from school and/or law enforcement officials.
Posted @ Saturday, November 02, 2013 8:44 AM by Russ
The sad part is that a lot of adults in society these days don't even consider whether a child is being bullied when he's in a bad mood-and assume he's being an ungrateful brat and all kids have it easy these days. It's really sad...please check to see if your child's being bullied before you say that to them...
Posted @ Sunday, November 03, 2013 5:51 PM by Kelly
I wanted to know what are some things to stop bullying or how to address it? I know or only know of trying to go to the principal and teachers but sometimes that does not help. I work with teens and I am just wondering other things to help practically speaking. 
The link below is a song I wrote reflecting on the subject. 
thanks 
https://soundcloud.com/sea-h/bully-1
Posted @ Wednesday, November 06, 2013 1:47 PM by steven hernandez
The original blog posted here was by Dr. Michele Borba. She's a nationally-recognized expert on parenting and has written extensively and provided resources on the topic of bullying, bully prevention, and anti-bullying and victim coping strategies. Michele's webpage may be useful: Micheleborba.com.
Posted @ Wednesday, November 06, 2013 3:23 PM by Russ
i know how some of you people feel if you are being bullied stick up for yourself and don't let yourself be treated like someone else's punchingbag
Posted @ Thursday, November 07, 2013 9:08 AM by
I think telling a teacher or a school counselor is a joke. We Did tell my son's teachers what was going on and to no avail. My son won't talk to the counselor anymore because he's tired of talking. We both are just talking circles are them and the funny thing is Right after I told theteachers what had happened, the very next two days My son gets written up for doing something to one of his bullies! They had Just told me they never see any Negative things going on in their classrooms! I signed the note and my son asked if I was going to punish him. I told him no. The next he gets written up, I will be making a statement because my son has shown ALL the signs of someone being bullied! It breaks my heart! School systems don't want to get involved like they say they do...that is a joke!! Any school that says otherwise is lying. How do I know, I have and have had family in All corners of the school system. My mother was a teacher and was attacked by a student....They did Nothing. That student only got a slap on the wrist and 90 days added to his probation! My mother has permanent damage...short term memory loss... 
But back to my son, not too long ago, he told me to just end for him and he was in tears! Who asks their mother to end their life for them??? Plus, he won't point out this boy's mother because he is convinced things would get worse if I talked to her. And these are 5th graders! What is a mother to do???
Posted @ Thursday, November 07, 2013 2:26 PM by Concerned Mom
It makes me so sad to read about all of these injured souls - crying out for help! The only program that I have seen in 22 years in education that actually works is Bully Neutralizer. You can see if it is right for your school at http://bit.ly/BullyLesson1
Posted @ Saturday, November 23, 2013 1:54 PM by Tex
i have been getting bullied since i was in pre-school and i still am it really hurts me and i never talk to anyone anymore even my family... but im on my own im gonna try to get through this on my own and those of you who r getting bullied as well i know it might not be okay now but it will get better even if i dont believe it myself i have people telling me it will all end soon well i hope so im sick of it and im sick of hearing tht others have been bullied it breaks my heart... anyway u gotta get out of the past dont make the same mistakes i did... im 15 and im already screwed up a lot excuse my language so the people who r getting bullied should just stay on the right path and stick to ur guns.
Posted @ Monday, November 25, 2013 5:38 PM by christi
I am being bullied in school but I dont want to talk about to anybody but most of those signs are not happening with me I don't want to tell my parents and I also don't want to got social event and I don't want to go to school the bullies are my friends and I have no other friends and I don't know what to do I have been crying myself to sleep and every one is saying that I made a fake Instagram about the guy who asked me out last year and I said yes then the next day I found out it was just a prank but someone else made the account to make everybody think it was me and know school is awkward and every time I walk pass someone in the halls or in class everything goes bed silent and I don't know what to do. HELP 😨😪😂
Posted @ Tuesday, November 26, 2013 8:25 PM by Shelby young
Shelby (and others who are being bullied)... I'm not a counselor or mental health expert, so I can't give you that kind of expert advice. But I am a former school principal who unfortunately frequently dealt with bullying situations. I hear that you don't want to talk to your parents about what is happening. I hope those feelings change, but if that continues to be the case, you do need to talk to a trusted adult - at school that might be a favorite teacher, or coach, counselor, or principal/assistant principal. They need to help you deal with the bullies at school (by the way, friends don't bully - so you may want to question whether these "friends" truly care about you), and with your resulting sad feelings. Seek help and advice from the trained adults in school who care about you and want the best for you.
Posted @ Wednesday, November 27, 2013 11:18 AM by Russ
My son just recently told me that he is being bullied at school. He is in the 8th grade. We did all the things you are supposed to do, told the school, he is in counciling, and he is taking antidepressents. I had to take him out of regular school because he was having panic attacks. He is doing online school. This is not going well at all. He says that he has panic attacks when he tries to do his school work. He is very depressed and hardly will leave the house. What can I do? 
Posted @ Thursday, November 28, 2013 10:43 PM by Amy
um well this may not be entirely true. I'm bullied myself but it's only in gym class during 3rd period. I have tons of self-confidence and pretty sure girls are talking about my weirdness behind my back. but what really sucks is, people who are bullied don't stand up for others but with me it isn't true. I make friends with depressed kids and I don't know how to speak to my guidance person. but my parents don't know I am bullied because of how I look in the mirror at myself and smile when people are around. I know I'm thin but ugly is mainstream word because of my weird face shape. so an edit for you. this isn't entirely true but, here the edit comes, secretly watch your daughter/son looking in the mirror. if their happy still, stop worrying and don't worry, if they are sad and rub areas on their body frequently, example: face, stomach, hair. they are a subject and tell them how to stop them from hurting because trust the kid, no kid will tell an adult no matter how serious and unusual bruising? no biggy just self defense lessons will go and tell them that you trust them and also, when they go to school trust them. if they get punched let them punch back (after self-defense lessons)if they get suspended talk to the principal and if they don't act school board. trust me
Posted @ Wednesday, December 11, 2013 10:14 PM by Jillian
Hi I am Abby my brother says that boys in his classroom keep hitting him. He is in 2nd grade and is usually good but he brought a knife to school. should I be worried 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Posted @ Monday, December 16, 2013 2:58 PM by Abigail
Abby, 
 
Yes, you should be worried. Your parents and/or guardians and the school's administrators need to know about the hitting incidences right away. As for the knife... that can result in a legally-mandated expulsion or suspension from school (not to mention could be a dangerous situation), so the same adults mentioned previously need to know about that as soon as possible too.
Posted @ Monday, December 16, 2013 3:04 PM by Russ
If you ever wonder what kids don't tell you, or if your a student and wonder if things can get worse well this was a part of my childhood. (Some language, about 4 swearwords) 
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/defining-moments-they-can-get-gmp/ 
 
Tell your parents about bullying, things can and do get worse, much much worse.
Posted @ Sunday, December 22, 2013 10:30 PM by David
wonderful i agree kids should have someplace to go where they feel secure to talk about this
Posted @ Tuesday, January 07, 2014 10:50 PM by kathy
I was not sure if i was being bullied before but now i am fairly certain. There is another guy in my drama class who I seem to always get partnered with. He makes fun of my voice and my ideas when i try to contribute. He also smears my gloves in my sandwiches and ruins my lunches. I don't know what to do and he is much bigger than me
Posted @ Thursday, January 09, 2014 6:52 PM by Joe
Joe, you do not need to put up with this kind of behavior. You should tell your parents, and you (or they) should report these incidences immediately to a trusted adult in your school - a teacher, assistant principal or principal.
Posted @ Thursday, January 09, 2014 9:25 PM by Russ
Me and my friend are getting by 2 ugly and super annoying boys at first we wanted to kill them but not anymore we just want to get revenge thank you for posting this
Posted @ Saturday, January 18, 2014 3:48 PM by Kiyah
Hello. Okay, there's a reason I'm on here, and I've already heard about it, but I needed the tell-tale signs. My little brother, aged 15, and a sophomore in high school is being bullied. 
My mother nor father will believe him, just like when I was bullied. I'm wondering what I should do. Both my brother and I have told both the school and the authorities that he is being bullied, and they haven't done jack squat about it. It's been going on since his freshman year. I'm now a senior in high school, and his bully is also a sophomore along with my brother. In addition, they have the same P.E. class together. 
My question is should I assert the fact that I'm his older brother and he should stop? 
My brother is already psychologically damaged as it is. 
I'm teaching my brother Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Muay Thai also, in case he may need to use them. 
He comes home occasionally with a bruise on his arm and stomach. 
But most of it is verbal. 
This kid is also stealing things from my brother, as I notice things he takes with him to school don't come back. He takes very good care of his things, and never tends to lose things like his favourite book or his iPod. 
One day though, both were missing. My bro and I took it up with the school security and the campus deputy. I mentioned after my brother left after he got his stuff back that I believe he is being bullied, in which they said "That's not our problem." I told my mom and dad, and they didn't believe me. 
Guys, I'm furious about this. 
I'm very VERY protective of him because of his current state of mind. 
Him and I were abused by my step father (whom we do not live with anymore), he saw our mom's best friend die, he's lost so much more and I cannot fathom what goes through his head, and this kid, and I'm sure the kid's friends, are bullying him. 
I need advice. 
Right now, I just plain want to beat the crap out of him, which I might have to do either way. He's a thug, and I believe on the freshman football team. He's on freshman because they don't let sophomores on JV or Varsity. 
But I do not wish to fight, no matter how bad I want to.  
I want to settle this without violence. 
Please, any advice would be helpful. 
If you have a Facebook, please message me.  
The name's Jacob Allen Crownover. My profile is me sporting my favourite NY Giants #80 jersey, my NY Giants hat, and I have straight hair. 
If you don't have Facebook, email me at bmthfan1995@gmail.com OR cgfreak95@gmail.com 
Thank you. 
~Jacob
Posted @ Tuesday, February 04, 2014 9:29 PM by Jacob
Jacob, 
 
I'm so sorry about your brother. This is a very difficult situation, as it appears you don't have many places to turn. A couple of suggestions for you:  
 
First of all, I'd recommend that physical violence isn't your solution - that can turn badly for you, and for your brother. That being said, you can certainly stick up for your brother, as can your friends. Letting the bully know that you won't tolerate the harassment (and having others tell the bully the same thing) could be effective at getting it to stop. Second suggestion - consider telling other trusted adults at the school - favorite and trusted teachers of yours or your brother, favorite and trusted coaches, etc. Adults need to know about this, even if it feels like no one is listening. Keep trying! Someone at school will help. Finally, you might consider calling a free national hotline run by a place called Boys Town - they have trained experts that want to help with difficult issues. Their number is 1-800-448-3000. 
 
Jacob, people do want to help. You just haven't found the right people. Keep trying, don't be discouraged, and tell your brother not to be discouraged. Sometimes the best help just takes time.
Posted @ Friday, February 07, 2014 7:20 PM by Russ
I got bullied 3 times when I started year 7 and when I was in primary school I had never been bullied. It was horrible. It still goes on now. Loads of people call me emo (i dont even look like one) but 1 of the fit-ish lads in my school stuck up for me and said that I wasnt. People call me slut too. I got into a fight with one of the girls who bullied me. I found that the worst bullies were girls because they knew things that could hurt you. I know how you feel Joe. Your not alone. I dont recomend doing what I did the first time though. I was seriously cocky and thats why I got into a fight... :) Im happy now though Im in year 8
Posted @ Monday, February 10, 2014 7:58 AM by Jasmine
I suspect my 12 yo son is being bullied. His grades have gone down, he doesn't want to go to school and he says everyone is annoying. He has lost his friends this year, doesn't eat his lunch most of the time and also complains that kids should not be in sports. I have asked him if someone has been picking on him and he constantly says no. He told me one time someone was bothering him and when I went to bring it up with his counselor, he said it stopped. This week he told me he is afraid that he is going to hurt someone or hurt himself. It hurts me seeing him so sad and depressed but I don't know how to get him to open up and I know the school won't do anything if my son refuses to say anything.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 7:40 PM by Holly
I suspect my 12 yo son is being bullied. His grades have gone down, he doesn't want to go to school and he says everyone is annoying. He has lost his friends this year, doesn't eat his lunch most of the time and also complains that kids should not be in sports. I have asked him if someone has been picking on him and he constantly says no. He told me one time someone was bothering him and when I went to bring it up with his counselor, he said it stopped. This week he told me he is afraid that he is going to hurt someone or hurt himself. It hurts me seeing him so sad and depressed but I don't know how to get him to open up and I know the school won't do anything if my son refuses to say anything.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 7:41 PM by Holly
I suspect my 12 yo son is being bullied. His grades have gone down, he doesn't want to go to school and he says everyone is annoying. He has lost his friends this year, doesn't eat his lunch most of the time and also complains that kids should not be in sports. I have asked him if someone has been picking on him and he constantly says no. He told me one time someone was bothering him and when I went to bring it up with his counselor, he said it stopped. This week he told me he is afraid that he is going to hurt someone or hurt himself. It hurts me seeing him so sad and depressed but I don't know how to get him to open up and I know the school won't do anything if my son refuses to say anything.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 7:41 PM by Holly
Holly, 
 
You say that you suspect your son is being bullied, and that certainly may be the case. However, as a former middle school principal, I can say that many of the behavior concerns that you share about your son... they're actually pretty common among adolescent children, especially boys. It could be the case that he's simply about to enter his teen years - with lots of emotional and physical struggles. I realize that may not make you feel much better, but again, some of his "symptoms" are relatively common. At the same time, if bullying is indeed an issue, your son will need to open up to someone - if not you, perhaps a trusted teacher, a coach, or another adult relative? School personnel will want to help, but they'll need to know what is actually happening, and if bullying is actually occurring.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 8:34 PM by Russ
Russ, Thank you for your response. I do know of at least one time at school that other kids were picking on him as the teacher wrote me about it. She wouldn't have known if another student had not told her as even though the kids admitted it, my son still denied it happened. He has no friends at this point (after always having several friends), has lost interest in almost everything he use to like and is in tears many days when I send him to school. It would be way too wordy to put down everything, but one of the first things that made me wonder was when he ended up with a fracture in his back last year and there was no known reason for it.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 9:06 PM by Holly
Russ, Thank you for your response. I do know of at least one time at school that other kids were picking on him as the teacher wrote me about it. She wouldn't have known if another student had not told her as even though the kids admitted it, my son still denied it happened. He has no friends at this point (after always having several friends), has lost interest in almost everything he use to like and is in tears many days when I send him to school. It would be way too wordy to put down everything, but one of the first things that made me wonder was when he ended up with a fracture in his back last year and there was no known reason for it.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 9:08 PM by Holly
Russ, Thank you for your response. I do know of at least one time at school that other kids were picking on him as the teacher wrote me about it. She wouldn't have known if another student had not told her as even though the kids admitted it, my son still denied it happened. He has no friends at this point (after always having several friends), has lost interest in almost everything he use to like and is in tears many days when I send him to school. It would be way too wordy to put down everything, but one of the first things that made me wonder was when he ended up with a fracture in his back last year and there was no known reason for it.
Posted @ Tuesday, February 25, 2014 9:09 PM by Holly
I am so sorry to hear that anyone in any situation is being bullied. Kids can be so cruel to each other. Bullies are sick people-they may have been bullied themselves, may have bad self images, or whatever their excuse is. You have to know that it is not you, it's not your fault, it is in them. They have a problem with themselves and for some reason it makes them feel better momentarily to make someone else feel bad about themselves. They don't know that in the long run they are feeling even worse about theirself because they are truly ugly inside. You keep your head up, and learn to love yourself. People are jealous of everything. what you have, what you look like, how smart you are, how sweet you are, anything they can find. Don't let anyone make you angry or bitter towards life don't let them destroy you or your inner peace. You are loved.
Posted @ Tuesday, March 18, 2014 6:58 PM by brook
My 13year old daughter is being bullied at school. I have talked to the counselor but nothing is happening. She just says that the girls are having a communication problem. Also that she can't do anything about what doesn't happen at school. She is getting a lot of text from people calling her a bitch and hoe! What can I do?
Posted @ Sunday, March 23, 2014 3:22 PM by Betsey Carter
Betsey, 
 
As a former school principal, I'd suggest you schedule a meeting with your daughter's principal. Let him/her know that you've already tried to work through the school counselor, and show the principal the inappropriate text messages. The school does have a responsibility to handle issues that occur off campus, if the issues then affect your daughter on campus. In other words, even if inappropriate, harassing, or bullying actions happen away from school, if those things then affect your daughter's schoolwork or disposition at school, then the principal has a responsibility to take action. Good luck.
Posted @ Sunday, March 23, 2014 9:10 PM by Russ
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