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Dr. Rick Hanson

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Relax, You're Going to Be Criticized

Posted by Dr. Rick Hanson on Thu, Jul 19, 2018 @ 09:07 AM

What are you bracing against?

The Practice: 
Relax, you’re going to be criticized.


The title of this practice is a little tongue-in-cheek. What I mean is, most of us – me included – spend time worrying about criticism: past, present, and even future. Yes, try hard, keep agreements, “don’t be evil,” etc. But sooner or later – usually sooner – someone is going to point out the error in your ways. Often in subtle versions that still have an implicit criticism, such as giving advice, helping or teaching when you don’t really need it, making corrections, comparing you negatively to others, or focusing on the one tile in the mosaic of your actions that’s problematic while staying mum about the 99 other good tiles.

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